A thing I was thinking about a few days ago that I didn't vocalize. Something I don't know if I'll fully accept are friendships based solely on humor. Humor in friends is nice, but it doesn't go deep. They of course can coexist, but friendships solely based on humor are held together like a thread that is too easily severed.
Humans are so complex and are more deep than their humor lets on. Humor is the easiest way to get someone to like your company and therefore become friends. But is that all that is needed for a friendship? In the long run, it would seem that humor hinders a friendship. In the end, all that is left is a few inside jokes and no lasting bond between the people.
But then there is me. Do I do anything about it? Sometimes. The more important question is: Does that effect my attitude? The answer to that is usually no. Sometimes people reveal themselves; say horrible things about their past. Things that go beyond the normal humorous and enjoyable conversations. It may set the person in a different frame of mind for others, but for me it rarely changes my attitude towards the person. When I met the person again, I just act like I normally do; the same old routine. People may see it as me accepting their past and not feeling pity for them, but it is more of me not knowing how to deal with such info. So does going beyond the humor have any effect on my friendships either? I don't know.
Maybe the only thing I can rely on is hope. I know based on my humor that it is grounded on what I'm actually thinking. The brain that is making the joke is the same brain that is thinking. Something in that person's brain thinks the humor and that thought does reveal something about them...In ways I personally am horrible at reading. In some form, humor and thoughts coexist and relate to each other. Hopefully that understanding leads to deeper friendships.
