Tuesday, June 5, 2012

This is What Happens to Me When I Have Nothing To Do


May I rant?  I hope so.  School is practically over and summer is starting.  Yeah yeah whoopty doo.  Before summer could just be a time to relax and do nothing, but now it is supposed to be something to be used.  I feel obligated to do something during the summer when normally I would just be lazy.  I don’t feel old as in like 70, but I feel old as in I’m not an innocent child.  I understand the idea of regret, how we look back and think how our lives could have been if we performed another action.  

When I was a kid, the future was something to strive for, but right now, it scares me.  The unpredictability, the expectations.  Though I shouldn’t be saying this when I’m 18, I already feel constrained.  As a child, wrongs could be righted, paths not taken could be walked.  The idea of responsibility and time was nonexistent.  What is there now?  Most of the day is spent making sure we don’t fall into delinquency.  Self-improvement requires a huge amount of extra effort.  

Summer is supposed to be the release of that.  No constraint, no timetable, no homework.  Time is yours for whatever you want to use it for.  But the vast, empty time, that is what the problem is.  We don’t have to think of days in hours, weeks in days, months in weeks.  Time just flows across the 3 month break without a pause.  The old ideas of bedtime and wakeup time are evaporated.  Because of this empty time, I find my instinct is to simple rest.  Watch tv, take a walk, whatever.  The first week without constraint is liberating.  I feel content to just sit and stare at a screen, at other people, at the sky.  The heat of the sun and the coolness of the wind just add to the silence of my mind and the days.  

But then that feeling decays.  Everything becomes boring.  The destruction of the schedule makes it feel like an eternity of torture.  The suffering because of ennui is felt because of self-guilt.  Summer isn’t real life.  Real life is when we must follow the path we have set out or what is set out for us.  In real life, actions have consequences.  Summer is a break from work or consequences, one can do whatever they want.  But with that, guilt arises since the disassociation between the two modes of existence creates a dichotomy in my psyche.  Sometimes this prompts people to do something of merit, sometimes.  Sometimes it breaks a person and makes them even lazier.  The most likely outcome is that the boredom makes someone do something they wouldn’t normally do.  Something insane.  It isn’t real life right?  Why fall under the same constraints?  Pursue an activity you wouldn’t try, create something, try something cool, just in some way be radical. Somehow compensate for the boredom.  Somehow making us feel like we exist during this break period.  

During summer, time isn’t a factor.  The normal weight and influence of time is discarded.  This feeling makes summer feel eternal.  We are desperate to dispel the boredom, forcing ourselves to pursue something, to throw our heart and soul into it.  But in that way we feel alive.  We actually experience life by going beyond what is normally considered life.  The emotions like joy and sorrow are exaggerated in an existence that isn’t bounded like real life.  But then that “eternal” time ends.  The time staring at a computer screen that felt like a lifetime was actually just another second ticking away from summer.  Same with the fun activity that felt like a moment that actually was a day. Where is that large emptiness that existed when this process started?  

What is left?  Memories.  The actions in summer have no consequences in real life.  The only way those actions can leave an imprint is in memories.  By existing not based on how others want us to live but based on rash and impractical actions, we have created memories that are truly ours.  A summer, a moment that is truly ours.  A time where nothing was holding us back.  But then we slowly go back to the old routine.  Work and obligations start to pile up and self-fulfillment takes a back seat.  Just make sure those memories will never fade.  I hope you don’t let them.  The feeling of being alive, the feeling of being happy, those are important memories.  Even if the details don’t stick, at least remember the emotions.  The only way to preserve our humanity is to reflect on our experiences.  That will remind us that we are young, we are flawed, and most of all, we can create our own meaning.  

Rant done. 

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