Probably the last blog post that I will do in Japan so yay. I might as well talk about something concrete since I haven't done that lately. So obviously I'm taking Japanese here: one a normal Japanese class and the other two are just side classes that are supposed to make you use the language. Those classes are ok but are not that much fun. My Comprehensive class however is pretty sweet. We are a really chill class that likes to joke around but still we get the work done and learn. Our class is heavily skit based which is awesome because people make some interesting skits. At my UVA Japanese class, mostly I will be crazy and maybe a few others will be crazy independently or with me but here almost everybody finds a way to work in their own humor into the class.
I didn't give the people around me enough credit it seems. In the first three weeks it seemed to me that Riso, Eugene, and I were the ones being the craziest in class. After they left, I was worried that I will be left alone to make the class fun, but the first skit of the next 3 weeks where we had to act like we were ordering at a restaurant, almost everybody did something funny, so I was happy that I wouldn't be the only one. I shouldn't have forgotten that other people had their own desire to make the class fun as well. Inkyu even said that in his first class since many of Da Crew members are in it, they do some funny skits in that class too. I was happy that even in other classes they were pursuing our mutual goal.
Should also use this time to give a shout out to Da Crew members. Maybe I got some Asian blood in me but I like this group mentality thing. First at UVA with KAF and here with Da Crew, it seems that I like being part of something like this. Things like having signs like our Shaka hand sign to call the group together and doing random stuff after class makes being in Japan not so boring.
They say if you want to have a trait like confidence, you have to fake it until it becomes ingrained into you. In the same vein, I say things like "Da Crew needs to stick together" so that eventually it actually becomes a value of the group. Even though we were only together for a couple weeks, I think we bonded pretty well given the time we had. This probably will sound like a farewell but of course I need to thank them all for putting up with my antics and random things I blurt out, or when I say things in order to provide (sorry Nikki haha). Even though these are things that friends usually do, I'm still amazing that people can put up with so much 迷惑ww.
Doubt I will see most of you guys ever again after the program but it was fun while we were here. Probably some will say we met for a reason but I usually don't think that far down that path. I will just say that I suck at maintaining long distance friendships but I guess a balance of effort on both side can fix that easily. Oh well that is future thinking. One week left guys, at least for me, so time to go all out!
Saturday, July 26, 2014
Monday, July 21, 2014
Fifth Week in Japan
My program isn’t over for another 2 weeks but mentally I
feel I am already gone. From others I here them lament about how short the program is and how they have fallen in love
with Japan, but none of those emotions seem to spring out from me. Many of those same people, even though they
feel sad, already have full exchanges to Japan set up for the future or at
least plan on coming back, but I feel it will be a long time before I come
back. I don’t feel that deep of a
connection to this place. I didn’t buy
that much stuff except two books and I didn’t really make any deep
friendships. It is probably because I
checked out, I’m too lazy to making friends and living in the moment. As a fellow blogger said, “Some students gave
me flowers. They’re plastic so I don’t have to water them. It’s a nice gesture,
but lately I feel like those plastic flowers, being there and looking the part
but not really living.”
The most obvious way I have noticed this trend is when people
from UVA ask me, “how is Japan?” and I answer, “Just a normal life.” Maybe it is my western individualism shining
through but I am me and Japan is Japan.
As long as I am me, the location doesn’t really matter so my life is essentially
the same. I often walk out of class
slightly shocked to see I’m in Japan. It is like I forget about it since I’m in
my own little world all the time.
Maybe this was caused because I kept being told that Japan
will destroy my ego and try to reform me.
Since I kept hearing that, I chose to put myself above Japan. I feel no need to assimilate or even try to
assimilate because I’m here for a short time.
I wonder if I was here longer at what point would I let myself be whittled
away by this culture. I have seen many people try to assimilate by acting more
polite or even talking completely differently when using Japanese. I am slightly shocked by it, but I would probably end up doing the same if I was here longer.
It is sort of scary in a sense. In our western, humanist worldview, the self
is king. You are a being that makes
decisions and affects the world around you.
It is hard not to have pride in who you are. I am noisy and loud in class, blunt with the
people around me and crazy with people I don’t know. It is easy to define yourself by your actions
and thoughts. In Japan however, it is
so easy to see these traits muzzled for the sake of getting along with
teacher and fellow students. Is our
sense of self so weak that it can so easily bend to social customs?
Life is always throwing stuff at us and we should always be
changing our outlooks and ways of life, but for some reason Japan gives the
atmosphere that it needs to be done sooner and without your permission. I don’t know if I should be happy or not that
I wasn’t here long enough to experience it fully. Knowing this could be a part of my hesitation to
fully dive into Japan and be as in love with it as others are. I don’t know if what they are doing is just
giving up themselves or living life to the fullest. They say in Japan there is the うち or
inside and the そと or the outside.
This applies to social groups, work relationships, even societal
hierarchies. Before I even allowed the
Japanese to choose where to put me, I declare myself as a 外人 and
that I am on the outside and will remain there. Now I wonder if that was the best decision to
make.
P.S. Nikki always be hating that I don't put pictures so here is one ha!
Thursday, July 10, 2014
Fourth Week in Japan
As much as I say I’m a practical person, I still hold a lot
of idealistic values. What sometimes
ends up happening is I act one way while thinking another way. Even when I say I disagree with something, I
may end up doing the same thing. An
example is when I once asked my friend why she didn’t want to hang out with
certain person. Her reason was she would
only be at college for another 1.5 years so her time was precious. She would rather deepen the relationships
with the friends she has than find more.
Maybe because it is rare for people to ask me to do things with them,
but at the time I couldn’t agree with what she said. However now in Japan where my time is
limited, I am noticing that my actions are more aligned to what she said than
what I expected.
I’m starting to finally branch out and hang out with some
Japanese people, but I only expect to meet them maybe once or twice before I
leave. Sometimes Da Crew (a group of
classmates who I hang out a lot with) have plans at similar times and I have to
make a decision who to hang out with. I
usually choose Da Crew, which means I choose being with my established friends
rather than making new ones. I guess
because I have only 3 more weeks in Japan I can’t expect new friendships to
blossom easily so it is better to put my efforts into the friends I have.
Why I realized this was because of a slightly unrelated
thing what happened today. The Japanese
program I’m in is 6 weeks broken up into 3 week groups and some people are only
here for the first 3 weeks. Today was
their last day and it suddenly hit me that they were leaving. Riso san I joked with a lot in class; Eugene
was the person who backed up my craziness; Kira Kira san I rarely talked to but
she gave good reactions to my crazy actions haha.
I felt bad that I didn’t talk to them as much as I could have and before
I knew it, it was time for them to go.
I wanted to at least say something to them before they had
to go since I will probably never see them again. Usually after class people stand around the 1st
floor of our building for a bit before going, but Da Crew members were leaving
to go meet up with Carmen and Nikki. I
saw Riso san taking pictures with someone and Kira Kira san talking to a group
of people. As I saw my friends leave the
building, I didn’t know what I should do.
Should I wait and talk to these people who are leaving or follow my
friends?
Riso and Kira Kira san seemed so busy I thought it was ok
for me to leave but as I was walking out of the building I kept looking
back. Finally when I walked out of the
building, I took one last look through the glass doors. Kira Kira san noticed me looking, gave a
smile, and waved farewell. I didn’t
expect someone to actually notice me. I gave
a wave and a half smile, then turned to go run after my friends.
Probably my first real regret in Japan.
Friday, July 4, 2014
Third Week in Japan:Goals
In class we were asked what we thought we would receive from
our study abroad experience. Many people
automatically started writing stuff like culture, friends, and language, but I
couldn’t really consider things I was going to receive. I had to think why I even came here in the
first place. Truly the reason was because a huge amount of my friends were also
studying abroad and I had no plans during the summer. I guess the only goal was to not be bored,
but that is a low bar. I am not bored
when reading or watching shows either, but I can’t really go around saying I
did that all summer so I came to Japan.
I mean I guess I learned some culture and a few random words, but mostly
it has just been me confronting problems I thought I dealt with second
year.
The obvious goal of being in Japan is supposed to be
learning Japanese, but I never really took Japanese for the purpose of learning
it but more meeting all the people and having the fun classroom environment. I realize now why the Chinese at UVA bind
together and speak Chinese with each other.
For me the goal isn’t to learn Japanese but to talk to people, so if
English is the best way to do it I have no qualms using English.
I have sort of given up on trying to make Japanese
friends. Really the low bar of “not
being bored” is that I have peeps to eat with since I hate eating alone, but
not really make friends. It is really
possible and I applaud people like John and Carmen who can do it, and maybe I
could if I put more effort but with the mindset I have it isn’t going to
happen. I’m probably missing a piece
somewhere. I randomly talk to Japanese
people and go to lunch/dinner with them, but that only is the, “having someone
to eat with,” not really the friend stuff.
Maybe because I came to Japan not expecting to make friends, I already
had a mental block preventing it from happening.
I wonder if it is a bad thing to assume and expect things so
early. I usually have this problem. Like when I saw others go to Japan I was lik,e
“oh that is something other people do but I’ll never have that chance so I’ll
just sit here.” Then when I get the
chance to go to Japan I think “oh well I will just be doing random stuff and
really not gain anything from it unlike others who have meaningful experiences.” At some point what I think ends up being true
maybe or maybe not because of my mentality.
Will probably need to do a whole separate post about that later.
As Yozora said in Haganai, when you hit rock bottom you have
nothing to lose. I seem to have that mentality a lot. I think I have nothing to lose so I act like
my crazy self and do things for my own amusement that is probably not
beneficial for others nor in the long run for myself. Though I doubt I will change, it is good for
me to tell myself that I am losing opportunities by only doing that. People find the balance between being crazy
and being trusted and normal when necessary.
I’m still going around to extreme.
I guess the think I have learned from Japan is problems I
thought were solved were not so I guess it is now time to fix them somehow….How the heck can Hachiman say he has never hated himself when it is so easy (People who understand this I applaud)
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