Fourth Week in Japan

As much as I say I’m a practical person, I still hold a lot of idealistic values.  What sometimes ends up happening is I act one way while thinking another way.  Even when I say I disagree with something, I may end up doing the same thing.  An example is when I once asked my friend why she didn’t want to hang out with certain person.  Her reason was she would only be at college for another 1.5 years so her time was precious.  She would rather deepen the relationships with the friends she has than find more.  Maybe because it is rare for people to ask me to do things with them, but at the time I couldn’t agree with what she said.  However now in Japan where my time is limited, I am noticing that my actions are more aligned to what she said than what I expected.

I’m starting to finally branch out and hang out with some Japanese people, but I only expect to meet them maybe once or twice before I leave.  Sometimes Da Crew (a group of classmates who I hang out a lot with) have plans at similar times and I have to make a decision who to hang out with.  I usually choose Da Crew, which means I choose being with my established friends rather than making new ones.  I guess because I have only 3 more weeks in Japan I can’t expect new friendships to blossom easily so it is better to put my efforts into the friends I have. 

Why I realized this was because of a slightly unrelated thing what happened today.  The Japanese program I’m in is 6 weeks broken up into 3 week groups and some people are only here for the first 3 weeks.  Today was their last day and it suddenly hit me that they were leaving.  Riso san I joked with a lot in class; Eugene was the person who backed up my craziness; Kira Kira san I rarely talked to but she gave good reactions to my crazy actions haha.  I felt bad that I didn’t talk to them as much as I could have and before I knew it, it was time for them to go.

I wanted to at least say something to them before they had to go since I will probably never see them again.  Usually after class people stand around the 1^st floor of our building for a bit before going, but Da Crew members were leaving to go meet up with Carmen and Nikki.  I saw Riso san taking pictures with someone and Kira Kira san talking to a group of people.  As I saw my friends leave the building, I didn’t know what I should do.  Should I wait and talk to these people who are leaving or follow my friends? 

Riso and Kira Kira san seemed so busy I thought it was ok for me to leave but as I was walking out of the building I kept looking back.  Finally when I walked out of the building, I took one last look through the glass doors.  Kira Kira san noticed me looking, gave a smile, and waved farewell.  I didn’t expect someone to actually notice me.  I gave a wave and a half smile, then turned to go run after my friends. 

Probably my first real regret in Japan.